Belonging

From the moment you are born, life experiences are embedding impressions, beliefs, and conclusions in your subconscious mind.  Even what happens while you are in the womb or the circumstances around your birth can have a profound effect on your life.  I once mentioned this in a lecture and afterward a woman excitedly told me that she’d just figured out why she’d always had a deep sense of rejection, as if the world didn’t want her here.  She went on to describe her birth experience.  When her mother was in the final stages of labor, the hospital had called her doctor, but because he didn’t want to interrupt his dinner, he instructed the nurse to stall the labor.  With each contraction, as the baby kept trying to push her way out, the nurse would push her back in. Is it any wonder that despite having loving parents and a love-filled childhood, she’d always felt unwanted?  Her very first attempt to greet the world was met with rejection.  In addition to life-long neck problems, these circumstances created life-long emotional problems too. 

It is a wonderful feeling to discover an explanation for why we are the way we are, and even better to discover that we can change something if we want to.  We can’t change what happened at the time of our birth, but we can change the conclusions we formed.  And more importantly, we can always, always give ourselves what we need – even if we didn’t get it as a child.  I’d like to show you how and give you a chance to experience it.  I call this “Remaking History”.  It is a way to consciously embed a positive, loving belief in your subconscious mind to make up for something you didn’t get when you were young.  In this example, it will be a sense of belonging.  Let me provide a little background before we get to the meditation.

In the course of my work, I’ve noticed that very few people have a true sense of belonging.  By that, I mean a sense that they are wanted in this world, that there is a place for them, that the world looked forward to their arrival, welcomed them and is happy that they, specifically, (as much as any other human on earth) are here; that they have a right to be here and a say in what happens on this planet.  Many people may say this is true on an intellectual level, but very few FEEL it’s true.  Imagine how our world would be different if everyone felt they belonged?  People would carry a deeper sense of responsibility for what happens locally and globally.  They would more freely pursue their passions and the contributions they could make.  They’d be less bound by insecurity and self-doubt.  They could relax into self-acceptance and more easily accept others as they realize they have a right to be here too. 

Some cultures have customs or rituals designed to embed a sense of belonging from the very start.  For those who weren’t blessed with that kind of beginning, here is a guided meditation.  It’s just a few minutes long, but it can have a profound impact in rewriting your history.  You’ll know by the way you feel.  Here's the link:   Guided Meditation to Deepen Your Sense of Belonging

 (This is a much more powerful experience if you use headphones to listen)